New Grandma!

by Woody
(OHIO)

I am a new first time grandma. (a young 58) I live 500 mi. from my son, his wife, and new baby. My question is this:

I made a special flight, time, and expense to BE THERE at the hosp. when my gr. dau. was born. I waited in the waiting room while baby was born. I stayed maybe less than 2 hrs. after baby was born. This incl. time for nurses to "clean up baby, etc., etc." I was then asked to leave for "bonding time" by my son. (both had agreed to this) My flight was sch. to leave early the next Morn. I agreed and said I understood, and left. Seeing that my flight was early to leave I never did go back to the hosp. to see my first gr. dau. I am still kinda upset. What is your opinion? A newbe

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May 07, 2011
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I can relate
by: denise eddings

I feel you, being a grandma on the fathers side just seem to suck,but lets not give up , as for me, I will continue to fight for my rights as a grandmom to have a good relationship with my grandson it hurts, i know but us Grandmoms,we can take that and then some..BRING IT ON...

Dec 14, 2009
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thanks!
by: Anonymous

YOU ARE TOTALLY right Grama! Thanks

Dec 14, 2009
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Grandma's Need Thick Skin!
by: Grandma

Hello Woody,

Welcome to the world of Grandma's. My first advice to a new grandma is grow a very thick skin. Especially if you're the mother of the new father. It has always seemed the rights of grandma's on the mothers side has so many more rights and privileges.

You have every right to be upset with all the travelling you did, not to mention being there for the birth of your new granddaughter. I'm sure you were real support for your son and your daughter-in-law. I would suggest you have a long talk with your son and let him know how much he hurt your feelings. But the important thing is, your new granddaughter had nothing to do with her parents rudeness. With being so far away I doubt if you'll get to bond with your granddaughter the way you'd love to do. Just make sure you keep in touch with her and remember all the holidays. When she's old enough she'll always remember you tried to be there for her.

You'll experience lots of times your son will disappoint you now that he's married. Try to let things slide by as much as you can and when they really hurt you, like now, it's important to be honest and let them know tactfully. Always try to avoid confrontations as much as possible. Once you say things that hurt them they will use that as an excuse to keep you away from your granddaughter.

Take care,

Grandma

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